I am intrigued by your approach of “joining” my child’s repetitious behaviors (“isms”), but I’ve been told this will just make him do it more. Is this true?
The common misconception of this technique is that by “joining” in repetitious and ritualistic behaviors the child will be encouraged to “ism” even more. Since 1984, we have been implementing this technique, a cornerstone strategy of The Son-Rise Program and our experience and results prove just the opposite. We have found that when children are “joined” in their repetitious behaviors, they actually become more engaged, more socially available, and more motivated to be with others. Rather than increasing their self-stimulating behaviors and rituals, they reach out more and connect more fully to the world around them. Although the “joining” aspect of our program has been the subject of much speculation and misconception, and has received criticism over the years, recent studies are now supporting the perspective and techniques that we have been applying for over 3 decades. Click below to see the 2 peer reviewed studies on the Son-Rise Program and additional supportive research: